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IDEAS shared have the power to expand perspectives, change thinking, and move lives. Here are two ideas for the curious mind to engage with:

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Pastor Will Johns on seeing the world through the lens of gratitude:

“Gratitude is a lens that changes the perception of everything in your life. Your world will be transformed. You will begin to see good things you’ve never noticed before. You will begin to feel joy for things in your life you knew were good but never fully appreciated. You will be able to count your blessings even during difficult circumstances. Gratitude will affect your essential perspective of and attitude toward life. And it will bring you the happiness you have been seeking your entire life. However, it doesn’t happen naturally.”

Source: Everything is Better Than You Think: How Gratitude Can Transform Your Life

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Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton on how the best leaders know how people contribute and actively look for reasons to express gratitude:

“It is about seeing good things happening and then expressing heartfelt appreciation for the right behaviors. On the flip side, managers who lack gratitude suffer, first and foremost, from a problem of cognition—a failure to perceive how hard their people are trying to do good work—and, if they’re encountering problems, what they are. These ungrateful leaders suffer from information deficit.”

Source: Leading with Gratitude: Eight Leadership Practices for Extraordinary Business Results

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The balance between life and business is an interesting conundrum. There are articles, books, podcasts, and videos that talk about the need for work-life balance. The reality is that the balance has to be specific to your situation, and it’s a lifelong process to attain. Business leaders should be more focused on optimization strategies that create freedom in an enjoyable way.

Your goal isn’t to have your business turn into a job. While at the same time, you’d like your business to create financial freedom and an avenue for you to live an optimized life. The path to achieving your goals happens with the right habits and consistent action daily.

The good news is that you can create a happy life while also building a business that scales. For growth to be a reality, you have to employ growth strategies that are realistic to maintain. Here are three business optimization strategies that create time, freedom, happy life, and help you achieve your success goals.

1. Use systems to scale without your constant and direct involvement.

Today’s tools and software allow you to get more done without requiring a lot of your time. The issue becomes the business leader feels as if they have to wear all the hats. Too many leaders handle client onboarding while also managing sales, fulfilling the work, creating content, and everything in between. They are the jack of all trades, and they can never make any progress towards their goals because they have too much going on.

You can create more growth enjoyable when you use software and automation to systematize your efforts.  That can be using software to automate a lot of the client process. It can mean hiring a virtual team to help with various aspects of the business, even if it’s on a project basis. The point is to leverage modern growth options without having to add more responsibility to your plate.

“To be successful in business and in life, spot the possibilities while others look for problems.” – Robina Sharma

2. Focus on revenue over looking successful. 

Growth in life and business happens when there’s real growth. The world of social media gives us flashy images of success that tend to be built on a house of cards. Have you ever noticed that the most successful people in life aren’t flashy and don’t talk about wealth? The ones you see talking about six or seven figures end up being the ones trying to sell you on a program. You have to buy into their flash; otherwise, they won’t sell any of their programs. They’re selling you on a lifestyle.

The goal is to model the old saying, “make power moves in silence.” There is an important aspect of sharing what’s going on with your community, but a part of the growth process happens in private. Your goal should be to generate revenue instead of looking like you’re generating revenue. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks; they’re not paying your bills. Focus on doing the things that grow revenue, and let the results you’re getting for other people do the talking for you. 

3. Only work on the things you want to be doing. 

We spend so much of our time and effort working on what we think we should do in life. It may be societal programming or things our parents have taught us, but we don’t spend enough time doing what we actually want to do.

We create a business model that is not enjoyable to us. We take on clients we know are not a good fit and let too many people cross our boundaries. We wake up every day, look at our schedule, and start to feel dread because our day isn’t filled with the things we want to be doing.

It’s time for us to take a step back and think about how we want to show up and spend our time. The key to growth and a happy life is building a business doing the things that we want to do, which brings us joy. You use a growth model that has all of the elements that help you accomplish your goals.

Stop chasing a false image of success, and things you think will make you successful. Take time to think about the life you’d like to create and the path to get there. Think about the things that will bring you joy, and that’s how you should be spending your time.

You have some thinking to do. It’s time to have an authentic conversation with yourself about what sort of life and business you’d like to be creating. It would help if you did not spend a single moment doing things that don’t bring you joy.

Use these business optimization strategies to figure out what changes need to be made and make those changes. Get consistent in the action you’re taking to build your wealth and create more happiness in your life. Stop chasing a social media image of success and focus on creating success starting from within.

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Everything in life emits sound and energy. From your weary sighs due to a long day’s work, to the cicadas that seemingly invade your ears just before going to bed, the vibrations you feel are truly pervasive. Of course, needless to say, these vibrations can also change the way you feel about things in general.

You may, for example, notice that your vibe with others changes depending on how your interaction works out. If you’ve ever been given the stink-eye by someone particularly angry at you, then you know how this feels: it’s awful, and can truly put a damper on your day.

On the other hand, if you’ve ever been waved at by someone positive at work, then you also know how positive their impact is on you. It’s not much in the grand scheme of things, but just the happy smile of a jolly colleague can truly help you out with your personal problems.

Thus, the value of vibrations cannot be understated. With positive vibes, you can influence not only yourself, but even the people around you to be better and to feel better.

#1: Approach situations calmly

Far too often, the reason why there is negativity is because we allow our emotions to completely overtake us. This results in you being less inclined to actually think positively, since your stress and anger are slowly warping your judgment. As a result, there is a need for you to think about stressful situations clearly.

Now, before anything else, you must remember that however tense your situation is, there is always room for you to think and do things. Do not let the pressure take you in, and instead think of the advantages that your circumstances provide you. You may not have a lot of time, for example, but you have the skill to make things work.

Remember also not to take out your anger on those around you. If you really want to let yourself go, take a short breather and do some exercises, even spiritual ones. That will hopefully take some of the tension away from your body. Once that’s finished, come at the problem with a fresh outlook, and you will prevail in time.

#2: Appreciate the value of silence

When you are outside, there’s always some sort of pressure on your part to do something. Whether it’s talking to strangers or just being normal around them, you are always, by some external pressure, compelled to do something drastic. However, what you need to understand is that sometimes, you do not need to interact.

In fact, you might even need to distance yourself from people and simply appreciate the silence. Now, this doesn’t mean you can just be silent whenever you want, but if there is time for it, seize it by being silent and thoroughly meditating. You can either meditate in complete quietness, or you can argue within your own mind about your next moves in the future.

Once you have mastered the art of silence and quiet, you will be able to emit positive vibes simply by having a positive mindset. No longer will you feel the external pressure of society, and people will look at you in a more favorable way, knowing that you are being silent for authenticity sake.

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” – Nikola Tesla

#3: Forgive the past

Too often, the reason why people aren’t able to emit positive vibes at all, let alone get them to a higher frequency has to do with the fact that they aren’t able to let go of their past. For example, you might not be willing to entertain romances at the moment due to your past pain.

And while you are completely justified in being completely angry and hurt over what happened then, know that it might not be a good idea to hold on to that anger for too long. This is because your pain can only spread to others, and you might not be inclined to treat them well.

This then causes a terrible spread of negative vibes. At work, this can hurt your ability to socialize and work together with teammates. On a personal level, it prevents you from appreciating the present and future alike, taking the fun out of life and making you feel endlessly miserable.

Thus, it is easy to understand why forgiving a past does so much for your vibes. It forces a change inward, which then makes you better.

#4: Give yourself some love

This is perhaps the most important thing you can do for yourself. When you underestimate your true potential or do not give yourself enough credit, it weakens your ability to show your potential in front of other people. Suffice it to say, the most effective way to increase your vibrancy is to project it.

To project that same vibrancy therefore means that you have to believe in yourself. It is easy enough to hate yourself and not be confident, and it is easier to do so still because people have a false notion that being confident means being selfish or proud. However, this is actually just negativity at its finest.

In order to truly be positive, you have to believe in yourself and be confident in what you can do. It may seem difficult at first, but when you get the hang of it, you will start seeing changes. Further still, it will make you better at what you do and project that betterness to your colleagues and friends.

Thus, you won’t be improving alone; you will be sending positivity to other people as well.

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Be Where Your Feet Are

Be Where Your Feet Are

TOO OFTEN we are busy looking for the next thing. The problem is our experiences tend to be shallow. We miss out on the richness of being in the moment. To counteract this, we try to find balance. But balance doesn’t create greatness.

The solution is not balance, says sports executive Scott O’Neil in Be Where Your Feet Are. The answer is to make “the most of each moment and ridding ourselves of the toxic habit of constantly looking forward to the next thing.” Finding balance is “like aspiring to be in the middle.” On the other hand, “being resent, focused, committed, and hardworking at home and at work is the path to finding success and fulfillment.”

To that end, O’Neil offers, through the use of stories both personal and from scores of others, seven principles to keep you present, grounded and thriving. The stories and the grounding principle he draws from them really make each of these seven principles come to life. I offer one of the insights from each.

#1 Be Where Your Feet Are

With so many distractions, it is harder today than ever to be where your feet are. It has also never been more important.
I don’t believe the good life is about finding balance between work and home. It’s about living the moments we have where and when we have them.

To be more present, O’Neil offers a four-part process:

Find Perspective “Perspective is the foundation on which we build a life where we can be where our feet are.”
Seek Authentic Feedback “How you live is truly a choice. What you’re going to do and who you are going to do it with, those are choices only you can make.”
Cultivate Reflective Strength “Our ability to have more meaning is right here in front of us, but so are the distractions, and too often the distractions rule the day.”
Live Your Leadership Constitution “Committing in writing to life and a way of living matters. Whether we have family rules or values, whether we have a morning mantra or a leadership constitution, we need guideposts in our lives. We need reinforcement in terms of what we stand for, what matters, and what we prioritize, and through those things we can be where our feet are when it counts.”

#2 Change The Race

In those times when we feel stuck, unable to get out of the funk we are in, we need to change the race:

Recognize That You Have a Choice to Change Your Situation
Run Toward the Storm Instead of Away from It “I’ve already spent too much time in the gray. I choose to throw all of my emotion and soul into everything I do because it should all matter. It should matter because the alternative is that you have no life or hope or joy or future.”
Find Your Center with The Help of People You Care About and Who Care About You

The most critical things to keep in mind include knowing when you need to change the race you are running and not shutting down—remember that isolation is your kryptonite when things are going badly. Engage people in your life and do not let ego or pride get it the way of good decision-making or getting help.

#3 WMI – What’s Most Important

The world is filled with universe moments, which is when things happen for a reason and people, places, and events seemingly drop into your life with purpose.
Today the world moves faster and there seems to be more chaos than calm, it’s likely worth exploring your own centering force—whether that’s faith, church, prayer, meditation, running, yoga, or anything else that helps enhance your level of peace, increase your level of calm and provide a more centered life.

#4 Fail Forward

Failure is a better teacher than success. Failure is a more effective teacher than success. It’s rarely enjoyable, but it is critically important to be a student of life.
Stop competing, stop pressing so hard, and start opening yourself up to people and learning. Stop trying to prove what you know and begin to express that you’re intellectually curious. Be interested versus interesting.

#5 Be The Purple Water Buffalo

Be an extraordinary teammate. Hold the team above self.
The purple water buffalo attitude can also be summarized in this expression: if there is a piece of paper on the ground, bend over and pick it up.
We have to solve problems when we see them. Don’t wait. If something goes south, fix it.

#6 Assume Positive Intent

What if you assumed positive intent from those with whom you connect, no matter how many alternative and less generous assumptions were possible?
Why? Because we often have preconceived notions about what other people are thinking and what their intentions are, and typically these preconceived notions are negative. More importantly, they are at best clouded and at worst wrong, and they always impact your ability to be effective.

#7 Trust The Process

In a world dominated by instant gratification and obsessed by the spotlight of now, Trust the Process is the commitment that you will keep the long-term view at the forefront of your planning and decision-making. Trust the Process is about understanding the mistake and taking the time to revisit what went wrong and why, and then leverage that information to get smarter and make better decisions in the future.

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After a period of time of being in the workforce, you begin to hear about this idea of work-life balance. On paper, it’s a smart idea – you’re keeping your work separate from your own personal time. And while that was something I strived for, I realized how wrong this pursuit was after some time. That humble pursuit of striking a balance between work and life ended with me being in a bad spot. Beyond personal experiences, I find the pursuit of this idea still outdated and there are significantly better things to pursue. Here is what I suggest.

Work-Life Balance Causes You To Sacrifice A Lot

First off, why is striving towards a work-life balance such a bad idea? Well it’s a bad idea mostly due to how people think a balanced work and life ought to be. When you think of striking a balance between the two, you’d think automatically that both sides have to be good. You want a positive life just as much as you want work to be positive as well. On top of that, you want your personal and work lives to be separate.

Striving for that way of thinking is impossible from my experiences. I’ve seen plenty of results from people at various levels of happiness in their work life taking our Full Life Assessment at Lifehack, and have received some predictable results after taking our courses at the Lifehack Academy.

If people are really happy with their work, other parts of their life are crumbling such as health, and relationships. If people are happy with life, what tends to be the problem is wealth and career satisfaction are lower. These sacrifices are too much and aren’t practical for people to live in them long-term.

The Alternative: Work Life Harmony 

This cycle of giving up on something in order to fulfil something doesn’t make any sense. From my own personal experiences, it’s a path that isn’t good for you long-term. Once I realized that, I began working on alternatives and options for what people can do.

Because not all jobs and life are satisfying and things we want to do constantly, I realized that our balance is more revolving around harmonizing both aspects. In my book The Full Life Framework (The Essential Guide), I talk about the importance of taking the good and the bad in various parts and balancing those.

Below are some recommendations I listed in my book for obtaining work life harmony:

1. Rethink Time Management

First is to change your thinking about time management. We all have limited time here and so people are constantly telling us to make the most of it. But how do you really make the most of it? Should you try to eat up as much time of your day as you can doing many great things? Or should you try to do fewer things and really make them great?

It’s a quantity vs quality question when you first think about it. But what if I told you instead of wrestling with that you focus on prioritizing. Spend all your time on the actions that will lead to creating more valuable moments later on in life.

This idea isn’t anything new. It’s been around. But not many people have thought that much about this. I bet this is your first time even thinking about this. So I’d encourage you to look at that. Find the actions that will bring you more results.

“Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices.” – Betsy Jacobson

2. Explore Your Passions

Another thing people tell us is to follow our passions. It’s not the greatest advice as we all have multiple passions and interests. And we can continue to foster new passions and interests over time as well. Instead of following passions blindly, I’d encourage you to consider them all. But first, look at what it is you’re currently doing in life. Is what you’re doing right now in life something you are truly passionate about? Is it possible for you to find a deeper meaning to what you are doing in your life? Ask yourself those questions before thinking about what other areas you can explore. Consider everything from what brings you joy and excitement and happiness. Are there particular industries that you’d love to be good at?

3. Don’t Be Scared Of Limitations

Creating work-life harmony is also about knowing yourself. This includes past obstacles as well as the limitations that you have placed on yourself. If you have an understanding of these things, you can become more resilient to them in the future. If you’ve never experienced struggles or problems, then you haven’t been made to adapt or mature in any way. In theory, you’d have faced obstacles by this point since they are such necessary parts of our lives. From there it’s a matter of overcoming these limitations. It’s about rewiring our thinking to see limitations as opportunities to grow and overcoming them can help us reach our goals. The more you reinforce that idea, the more resilient attitude you’ll develop when you’re faced with the inevitable setbacks and problems.

4. Delegate When Necessary

The last aspect to having work-life harmony is delegating tasks when it’s necessary. If you want to increase productivity and minimize time or effort spent on something, delegation is an easy method.

Whether it’s at work or at home, if you’re losing a lot of time on something that could be delegated, you’re losing precious time. Again, the goal is to have a harmonious work and living situation and find meaning in everything that we’re doing.

Even if an overall goal could be meaningful doesn’t mean that the milestones you’re setting automatically are. We all have strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. If one part of something bothers you or takes up a lot of time, find someone who loves doing that part.

True balance in work and life shouldn’t be about sacrificing one thing over another. It should be about working through the bad and enjoying the good. Obtaining some level of harmony with your life and work is more rewarding and fulfilling in the end. And by going through those steps, you’ll find it easier to achieve that.

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Warren Buffett once said, the best investment you can ever make is in yourself. Time and money spent on bettering yourself are never considered a waste. Whether it’s through learning how to make money online, exploring new ways to increase your financial security, or watching TED talks to expand your knowledge. Do not be stingy when it comes to self-improvement because it will definitely pay off in the end. 

Need some ideas to get started on your journey to becoming a better you? Here are 5 ways to invest in yourself and transform your life. 

1. Change Your Self-Concept

Having a negative self-concept can have a tremendous impact on your life. Limiting beliefs and self-doubt are some of the main reasons why many never achieve or attempt to pursue their dreams. Take a moment and think about all the negative thoughts you have repeated to yourself throughout your life. How have these thoughts impacted the way you live life? From now on, create a new self-image by turning these negative thoughts into positive ones and appreciate your good qualities. 

2. Sign Up For An Online Course

If you’ve been wanting to brush up on your Photoshop skills or learn how to code professionally, this is the perfect time to get started. As long as you have a stable internet connection, you can access an endless amount of valuable information online. For example, sites like Coursera and Youtube are both awesome resources for online learning. With a few search strings and clicks, you can find all the information you need. 

“Investing in yourself is the best investment you can make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.” – Robin Sharma

3. Learn From a Mentor

No matter which stage of your life you are currently in, working with a mentor can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals. Not only can they guide you in the right direction, but also transform your vision, provide you with new insights, and connect you with amazing resources. If you’re feeling unmotivated or unsure about what you want to do in life, consider finding a mentor to help you navigate this process. 

4. Start A Side Hustle

The salary from a 9-5 job would rarely allow you to reach your maximum income potential. Why not achieve financial success while pursuing your passion by starting a side hustle? Whether it’s through starting an ecommerce business, freelance writing on the side, or starting a Youtube channel. There are infinite numbers of ways to make money, and there is bound to be one out there that fits your passion and skills. 

5. Nourish Your Body

As many may say, “health is the new wealth”. Without a healthy and functioning body, living a fulfilling and comfortable life becomes difficult. To take care of your body and prioritize your wellbeing, start with small habits such as eating healthier foods and exercising regularly. Bike or walk to work instead of taking the car, and opt for a healthy protein bowl instead of greasy burgers at Burger King. With time, these small habits can make an incredible difference.

Check out the infographic below, to see more ways you can invest in yourself:

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Burnout has become so commonplace that we don’t realize it until we’ve hit a crashing point. This crashing point can feel like a brick wall closing in on us, slowing us down and blocking us from getting up. If you’re tired of carrying this heavy weight on your shoulders, keep reading to learn the ultimate cure for preventing and recovering from burnout.

Let’s start with what burnout is exactly. Burnout is when we have chronic stress and don’t manage it well. It happens from overextending ourselves past our limits. From overworking, overthinking, and overdoing. It affects our energy levels, our moods, our actions, and how we show up. Not to mention it just feels plain crappy!

When we feel crappy it can feel debilitating or impossible to come out of it. The good news is, burnout isn’t permanent, and there’s something we can do to shift it. If burnout comes from not managing our stress well, then the opposite will cure it, managing our stress better.

The Cure To Burnout

The cure to burnout is extreme self-care. Not the kind of self-care you might be used to – the image of mani-pedis and margaritas. Although a fun activity, it won’t give you long lasting effects. For a longer term solution we’re going to have to dig deeper.

We need a solution that nurtures your WHOLE SELF, not just a portion of it. That solution is an integrated self-care practice. A self-care practice that is rooted in your daily routine and nurtures your mind, body, spirit, and environment. 

Most of us have heard about body wellness – in terms of eating right and exercising, but what about the other components? The lack of care for our mind, spirit, and environment are negatively contributing to our stress levels. Building a self-care practice that covers all of these components will reduce and prevent burnout.

“The land of burnout is not a place I ever want to go back to.” – Arianna Huffington

Building Your Self-Care Practice

Ready to build your personalized self-care practice? Before you sigh and say you don’t have time for yet another thing on your to-do list, here’s what you want to remember: self-care brings time back to you. So if you feel short on time, this is the solution to give you more time. When you care for yourself, you have more energy, more clarity, and more focus. This reduces the time you spend in confusion, indecision, and worry. If you’re not sold yet, try it for yourself and see what results you get. 

To build your self-care practice you have to know yourself deeply because your practice will be unique to you. What relaxes one person, might be stressful for another. Think about cooking for example. For some, this might be the most relaxing, nirvana activity. For others, the idea of preparing dinner makes them want to pull their hair out. 

Building the perfect plan for you, requires self-discovery work. Below you will find some questions to help you understand yourself better to create a plan that matches your style. 

Questions to help you build your self-care practice

Do I have a self-care practice right now? 
If yes, how can I enhance my self-care practice to help me reduce stress and thrive? 
If not, what would an ideal self-care practice look like for me?
What is important to me?
What gives me joy?
What fills up my cup?
What recharges me?
What kind of environment do I thrive in?
Where and when do I feel the most relaxed?
What calms my spirit?
Where in my day can I add 10 minute breaks?

The answers to these questions will help you develop your unique self-care practice. See where in your day you can take breaks, or simply decide to take breaks. Once you create those pockets of time, add in intentional 10 minute joy breaks throughout your day with the activities that relax and recharge you. For some that may be taking a walk in nature, basking in the sun. For others that may be dancing to music, cuddling with their dog. Make your self-care practice yours. Make it fun. Make it joyful.

“If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.” – Banksy

Living Your Self-Care Practice

Integrating your self-care practice into your daily routine is what will ensure you live it. If a daily routine sounds overwhelming, start with 1 day a week. Commit to a self-care practice at least one day in the week, then challenge yourself to add more days in each week. Take a moment every week to evaluate how it’s going for you. Notice how you feel before and after your intentional breaks. Notice what it’s adding to your life. And pay attention to your energy levels throughout the day.

Over time you will notice the mental, spiritual, and physical benefits you are gaining and you’ll find yourself drawn to incorporate self-care daily. Think of this self-care practice as natural medicine, joy, and life you are bringing back to yourself. Having your cup full will allow you to live the life you truly want. It will allow you to be present for the moments and people that are important to you. Because of self-care, you will be happier, fuller, and more in alignment to your truth. Cheers to building and living a self-care practice that will not only reduce burnout but also add joy to your daily life.

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Do you consider yourself one of the people with little confidence in themselves? Did life and situations make you lose faith in yourself? Do you still carry on your back the criticism of others or their bad treatment of you? If your answer is yes, then you came to the right place.

Self-confidence means that your inner world is safe, that you believe in your abilities to achieve success in life, and that you believe in your unique qualities and the way you judge things. And confidence is like a muscle that one can gain and develop over time. But, what does it take to be confident? Do you wake up one day and become more toned and energetic? What are the characteristics of confident people?

Here are 7 qualities of confident people:

1. Confident people are just natural people

Confident people show their true personality and identity to the world, indifferent to others’ opinions, and ignore negative comments. They are comfortable with who they are, love themselves, constantly encourage themselves, and freely express their views. In addition, they have high self-esteem and consider the person in the mirror to be their only competitor and do not belittle others. They are real people and do not try to play roles and live their lives on their own terms. So learn from everyone, but don’t copy anything and just be yourself.

2. Confident people are friends of themselves

They are people who are aware and connected to their inner self, live in the moment, do not make judgments, forgive themselves, and know that perfection is impossible so they accept themselves and enjoy spending time alone. They also believe positive beliefs about themselves, develop their abilities, trust their magic, and take responsibility for what they are and what they do. They pursue their goals with enthusiasm and do not try to prove anything to anyone and consider living happily one of their rights and celebrate their achievements. When we’re honest with ourselves, whatever is toxic and stressful simply falls.

“You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.” – Michael Jordan

3. Confident people do things they love

When we do something we love, we aren’t just happy, we are also very strong! These people spend their time in what they love to do, work in jobs that allow them to grow and thrive, have high expectations of what they can achieve, and follow their passions. The lack of self-confidence is overcome not only by faith but by action. It is a lack, not of certainty, but a lack of effort. Often times we are sure that we cannot before we give ourselves a fair chance, and they give themselves this opportunity to not only raise their potential but for exploration, adventure and fun as well. You have to be at your best when things are at their worst.

4. Confident people do things with a purpose

Everything these people do is dedicated to a purpose. They don’t do things randomly or without something on their mind. Because they believe in the power of action and the power of choice, they also believe in the power of purpose, so nothing is in vain, and this is the best way to increase effectiveness in whatever we do.

Walk with purpose. Approach life with purpose, enter a room with purpose, and it’s just a matter of time before people are coming over and talking to you. The first rule for advancement and professionalism in any business is the ability to communicate effectively, which is the ability to deal in a way that increases your influence or influence between them.

5. Confident people know their worth

If you think you don’t deserve anything, you won’t get it. These people believe in their value, are well aware of it, and do not give too much weight to be evaluated by others. Emphasizing and relying on what others demand makes a person a prisoner for their opinions. So these people understand that their value is what they give themselves, and they do not wake up in the morning to impress others. When you believe in yourself, others will believe in you, too

6. Confident people are not afraid to say no

Do you find it difficult to say no? As social beings, we are driven to maintain our relationship and it can be difficult to pick, even if this is the right thing for us. Ironically, those who lack self-confidence are often the ones who find it difficult to say no. Have you ever wondered why it was so easy to be rejected when you were a little kid and why it is so difficult now? What happened?

Well as children, we learned that saying no was an impolite or inappropriate behavior. If you said no to your mother, father, teacher, uncle, grandparents, etc., then you were definitely considered rude, and you may have been told that saying no was a forbidden thing. Now that we are all adults, we are becoming more mature and capable of making our own choices, as well as knowing the difference between right and wrong. So a word should not be out of bounds but rather something that we decide upon ourselves based on our own judgment. Don’t hold back just to keep the peace. Defending yourself builds self-confidence and self-esteem, so if you want to say no, be firm and direct.

“Confidence comes from discipline and training.” – Robert Kiyosaki

7. Confident people are mature and constantly learning

The limits of your life are the limits of your thinking. As the saying goes, there are no foreign lands. It’s the traveler only who is foreign hence always be ready to think outside the box and trying out what life offers. To become what we are capable of becoming is the only end of life.

Go beyond boundaries and enjoy the freedom of exploring your mind. Great innovators and past inventors went beyond normal thinking to critiquing occurrences. If you think you are capable of something, most of the time you will maneuver around and achieve it but if you tell your mind that you can’t achieve a goal, failure always pops up.

A positive attitude and an optimistic mind determine the extent of your capabilities. Never devalue the power of thoughts as they are highly influential in shaping our very lives.Everyone has their own measure of success. Don’t ever stop until you reach yours. Once you obtain your personal best, your confidence will soar within. Then, you will find yourself pursuing even more than you ever thought possible before.

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I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on self-help books and seminars over the past three years. I’ve devoted thousands of hours reading blogs and listening to podcasts about personal growth and self-improvement with the goal of finding the answers that would “fix” me. After my divorce I became addicted to the idea that the answer to my happiness and healing was in a book, podcast or a blog. I kept waiting to read or hear that magic “Ah Ha” tip that would change my life forever.

“Hi, I’m Jasmine. And I’m a recovering self-improvement addict”.  When I was faced with several unexpected challenging transitions in my life, all in a very short period of time, I became compulsively consumed and obsessed with self-improvement and personal growth. Don’t get me wrong, some of the most powerful breakthroughs I have had in my personal growth have been due to a seminar I attended, a book I read or a life coach that I worked with. But it was as if I was never satisfied with what I read or heard, I wanted MORE MORE MORE!

What Is Self-Improvement?

Let’s start with talking about what self-improvement is. Self-improvement is wanting to improve upon your knowledge, thought patterns, or character by one’s own efforts. The goal is to reach a point where you no longer feel the need to improve yourself.

Comparable to nirvana. A transcendent state in which there is no longer desire. It’s as if some people strive to get a Self-Improvement PhD and life will be perfect. If you find yourself picking yourself apart and comparing yourself to others when you are reading self-help books, is that really helping? Can self-improvement be poisoning your mind?

“Things do not grow better; they remain as they are. It is we who grow better, by the changes we make in ourselves.” ― Swami Vivekananda

Can you be addicted to self-improvement?

The Webster Dictionary defines addiction as: A compulsive, chronic, physiological, or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful, physical, psychological or social effects and typically causing well-defined symptoms (such as anxiety, irritability, tremors, or nausea) upon withdrawal.

When you think of an addict, you probably envision someone who is addicted to alcohol, drugs or sex; not a 40-something professional who is reading “Girl Wash Your Face” before she turns in for the night.

Placing importance on self-improvement doesn’t necessarily mean that you are addicted. When looking at whether or not there is an addiction, ask yourself this, do you keep repeating the same patterns and behaviors no matter how much you try to improve yourself?

According to Market Research, the self-improvement market in the United States was worth $9.9 billion in 2016 and is estimated to grow to $13.2 billion by 2022.

So, if it works so great, why are people constantly waiting for the next self-help best seller by Tony Robbins to be released or the next TED Talk by Brene Brown to go live? Wouldn’t you read one book, listen to one seminar and have achieved self-improvement nirvana?

The truth is that self-improvement, personal growth and self-care are all constant. That is why there are millions of book options and thousands of seminars with different approaches.

It is healthy to want to work on continuing to develop yourself, but do you ever take time to be in the present and appreciate who you are in that moment? Take a minute to process the tips and tools you have read and reflect on how you want to implement them into your life before you buy the next best seller.

I’m certainly not suggesting you should never purchase another self-help book again. But keep in mind, those books, blogs, podcasts or seminars, all they can do is give you ideas, suggestions and recommendations. It’s YOU that has to put all of it into motion.

Those tools are just someone else’s opinion on what you should do or they’ve done research on what “could” work for some people. They are just that, opinions.

If you have focused on self-improvement for quite some time and feel as if it may be taking over your life, I encourage you to take a break. In your efforts to continually improve, you can end up sending yourself the message that you are not enough, you are lacking, or that you are not worthy just as you are.

As you take time to slow down and look at all that you are trying to improve, it can be helpful to allow yourself to look at the ways you are succeeding in life and give yourself credit for even your baby steps.

“No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself.” ― Madonna

Accepting Yourself Does Not Mean Complacency

Just as placing importance on self-improvement doesn’t mean you have an addiction; accepting yourself does not mean that you stop growing or improving. Accepting yourself simply means that you are able to look at the big picture and acknowledge your strengths in conjunction with the areas you would like to develop.

Striving to develop yourself and work on self-improvement can be positive if you are balancing it with acceptance. It becomes toxic when it becomes your addiction. Acceptance doesn’t mean that you can’t still read the books, listen to podcasts and attend seminars to develop who you are. It means that you allow yourself to also see the amazing qualities you currently have, today.  

Self-improvement can become a never-ending project; you can always find something else that needs to be changed. To break the self-improvement addiction, you have to take a step back and decide to be happy with who you are now.

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You’ve heard it before. We all have the same number of days in a year and hours in a day. But some people seem to get more done within those confines of time. Others read books about productivity and try to get more out of themselves and their teams. Strive to become more efficient. Or add even more to the to-do list. But if we’re already maxed out, how do we reach higher levels of success?

We seem to be in a constant cycle of bouncing off the walls of what confines us. The calendar, the clock, the to-do list, deadlines, demands, expectations, schedules. And then try to bust through those walls by working harder or more efficiently. We think we’re working leaner and smarter but really, we’re often just trying to fit more in. What if there was another way?

Growing up, every Summer my family would vacation on a lake with sandy beaches lining the edge. One of my favorite things to do, with a plastic shovel in hand, was to dig a hole in the sand as deep as my little hands and plastic shovel could make, a few feet from the water’s edge. Then, I’d carve out a trough from the water’s edge all the way to my newly formed reservoir. Then wait and observe as the water traveled up the sandy trough to the hole I had dug. That simple childhood game was hours of fascination and more importantly, teaches us an important lesson about capacity.

You see, time is limited. The calendar is set. Our to-do lists max out. But capacity is unlimited. The way to think unlimited is to think in terms of capacity. What that childhood activity teaches us is that when we make space, in this case a hole and trough, it gets filled. Sure, time is limited and there’s a set number of days and hours available to us all. But the capacity we create within those limitations and how it gets filled is unlimited.

“Try not to become a man of success, but a man of value. Look around at how people want to get more out of life than they put in. A man of value will give more than he receives.” – Albert Einstein

Strive to be bored

Like the hole in the sand, you have to make space for something else to come in. Working harder, more efficient and increasing productivity isn’t always the answer. Perhaps unplugging the drain is. Instead of trying to accomplish more, try delegating, automating and eliminating. Instead of trying to cram more in, get rid of things in order to make space. Or as I like to say, strive to be bored. What if you had time to twiddle your thumbs? Imagine what you’d have time for if you delegated, systematized or got rid of things that were taking up your time. 

That includes tasks and yes, maybe some customers. That’s why it’s always best to work only with your ideal customers. Why? Because we all know the customers we bend over backwards for, jump through hoops for, who take up the most of our time, are always the least profitable. On the other hand, our ideal clients are a breeze to work with, enable us to do our best work, are the most profitable and leave us time to move on to other customers. 

As high achievers, we often get caught up in the busyness trap. Not comfortable with an idle moment, we fill it up with less than optimal use of our time. We think we have to stay in a state of overwhelm to feel pushed to our limits. 

However, if you don’t have time, how can you expect more of what you want to come in? What message is “no more time” saying to the prospect of more work? More success? If you keep saying to yourself, “I don’t have enough time”, what else are you saying you don’t have enough of? Money? Customers? Downtime? This is, at its root, a scarcity mindset. Because you haven’t created any space for more. Time is limited. Your capacity is not.

Preserve your energy

Your energy is a reservoir. That’s why self-care is so important to your success. People burn out for a reason. They push themselves beyond their capacity. Like trying to fix the time constraint issue by being more productive may not be the answer, preventing burnout by reducing stress may not be the answer either. Reducing stress is certainly part of the equation. But these are outside-in approaches; trying to control external circumstances first. A better approach is inside-out.

Instead of trying to reduce the outside circumstances that cause burn out, how about increasing your capacity for what you can handle? That’s where self-care comes in. Instead of a reservoir in the sand waiting to be filled, think of your energy capacity in the reverse. You start with a full reservoir of energy and well-being that you need to keep filled in order to have something to give out.

Being in business is draining. Life is draining. Especially these days. Don’t let your tank get too low. Your energy and well-being is a capacity to be refilled and expanded. What does that for you? Time off? A hobby? A bike ride? Walk on the beach? If you think about your energy as a capacity and you don’t let it run too low, it may not take much to feel refilled. Maybe a short break. Perhaps lunch with a friend. An hour massage would be nice.

“Either you run the day or the day runs you” – Jim Rohn

Develop personally

“Your level of success rarely exceeds your level of personal development”. That quote by Jim Rohn may be some of the truest words ever spoken. Certainly when it comes to success. It’s up to you to develop yourself personally, to grow and stretch in order to create the capacity for more success to come. 

Entrepreneurship and self-employment are like personal development on steroids. The rate by which we have to rise to the occasion, learn the next new thing, have our buttons pushed and recover, and find the best in ourselves all the time is at warp speed. How could our personal development not be a capacity within ourselves?

A capacity that needs constant nutrition to expand and to grow. Which is why we must always be developing not just our skill set, but ourselves. Our mindsets, our attitudes, our ability to persevere, our creativity, our innovation. The ways in which we need to grow are unlimited which is why we must think in terms of unlimited capacity.

What I know for sure is that success is not limited. What’s available to you is not limited. But you have to increase your capacity to handle more through constant personal development in order for there to be room for more success. Thinking in terms of what limits you will keep you where you are. Thinking in terms of capacity, and the never ending ability to increase capacity for more to come, will help you think unlimited. 

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