I remember the day in vivid detail. I was on a weekend trip visiting my girlfriend at the time in Arizona. She had decided that we should join her friends to go “cliff jumping.”  We were early on in our dating and she obviously had no idea that I was not fond of heights. So “cliffs” and jumping off of them… No thanks!

I inevitably found myself on the edge of a 40-foot cliff peering down at a vast blue canvas of water. Then I realized if I didn’t jump, I’d have to start the walk of shame back down the cliff. This was a lose-lose situation for me.

Fear had me. I didn’t want to jump, but I also didn’t want to look bad in front of my girlfriend’s friends. So I jumped and in that moment, I had defied my brain and my neurochemistry.

Our brains are wired to protect us, not to push us towards our goals. Our brains are wired to look for anything that could be potentially dangerous or threatening and keep us as far away from it as possible by using fear. The problem is not all situations warrant fear.

There is a saying in neuroscience that says, “the brain wires the way it fires”, meaning the more you do a certain activity, the more the brain lays down wiring to make that action or activity easier.

‘Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.’ – Karl Augustus Menninger

When we let fear keep us stagnant and we continue to do the same things that are comfortable, our brain gets “hardwired” to stay comfortable. We become “stagnant.” This can become debilitating for some of us and prevent us from encountering the very experiences we need to grow and succeed.

When we, in spite of our fear, do the challenging things that are outside our comfort zone, we begin to hardwire into our brain change, adaptability, creativity, growth, perspective, and happiness because we stretch the boundaries of our brain’s capabilities and force it to adapt rather than “playing it safe.”

An elite athlete didn’t make it where they are today by going into their training and never pushing past their comfort zone. They constantly pushed their limits of comfort to force their bodies and minds to grow to that of a top performer. The same principle applies to our brains. If we let fear dictate our actions in any area of our lives, it will stunt your growth in that area.

So what’s the first step? How do we go about conquering our fears whether it’s public speaking, starting a business, or launching the product or service? See below:
1. Journal Your Fears

Write down all the fears you have, big or small. Contrary to opinion “size does not matter.” Your brain still operates the same with all types of fear. The key is to first acknowledge what you are fearful about and bring it to light. Be as specific as possible.

2. Prioritize Your Fears

I then rank my fears from highest to lowest in terms of how often I think about this fear and/or how much it disrupts my life. You may find some fears combine into a broader category and that’s ok — we’ll get to that. So for now identify your biggest fear.

3. Support Your Belief in Yourself

I don’t mean just “believe in yourself.” What I mean is to build in support systems that will support your belief in yourself, so that when you start taking action, your support systems will solidify those new experiences and form deeper, more meaningful, and lasting beliefs in yourself.

It may look like building a list of affirmations that you say every morning or a meditation. Whatever it is, it needs to be uplifting and empowering you towards conquering your goals.

4. Take Action & Start Small

Look at your list and identify what your biggest fear is. That’s the beast we’re going to tackle long term, but for some that may seem like a big stretch at first. So instead, see what your 5th biggest fear is, and that’s where you’ll start.

What we will then do is build our way up and take a ride on the “Momentum Train.” Starting small with taking actions toward your lower priority fears and then building up helps your brain build momentum, which provides your brain with plenty of courage and motivation to tackle the #1 fear on your list.

‘Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.’ – Helen Keller

5. No Time Limit, Just Consistency

Most goals should be limited to a time domain. For the goal of tackling a fear, time can be a challenging factor to set. Some of these fears may have been unknowingly building up for decades without your knowledge. So I don’t recommend setting a time on when you are “going to conquer your fear.”

Instead set appointments to regularly meet and address your fear. If you’re fear is public speaking, then go to a local Toastmasters once a week. The more consistent you can be, the better.

6. Reframe and Reinforce

As you begin to address these fears, make sure you are reinforcing the experiences you have in a positive perspective. For instance, if you want to be less fearful of public speaking and decide to try out a local toastmasters group, your first time speaking to the group might feel like a train wreck, but when you look back on the situation you can acknowledge that that actually pushed past your fear and accomplished your goal.

7. Rinse and Repeat

This isn’t a quick fix. It may take some time. There’s always a new fear or challenge awaiting us. The key is to have systems like this in place to address those challenges properly rather than allowing ourselves to succumb to fear and derail our lives from their fullest potential.

How do you handle your fears? Comment below!

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41 Enlightening Bob Marley Quotes

Bob Marley is an internationally respected musician, activist, and philanthropist. Hailing from Jamaica, his music has influenced both minds and revolutions around the world. Much of his wisdom can be found in the lyrics of his songs. Timeless, these words will resonate within young people for generations to come.

Here are 41 of Bob Marley’s most powerful words of wisdom:

1. “I don’t believe in death, neither in flesh nor in spirit.” – Bob Marley

2. “When one door is closed, don’t you know, another is open.” – Bob Marley

3. “Love the life you live. live the life you love.” – Bob Marley

“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts.” – Bob Marley

“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.” – Bob Marley

“Beginnings are usually scary, and endings are usually sad, but its everything in between that makes it all worth living.” – Bob Marley

“Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality.” – Bob Marley

“Don’t complicate your mind.” – Bob Marley

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” – Bob Marley

“Better to die fighting for freedom than be a prisoner all the days of your life.” – Bob Marley

“Don’t gain the world and lose your soul, wisdom is better than silver or gold…” – Bob Marley

“The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively.” – Bob Marley

“It’s your own conscience that is gonna remind you; that it’s your heart and nobody else’s that is gonna judge.” – Bob Marley

“Judge not, before you judge yourself. Judge not, if you’re not ready for judgment.” – Bob Marley

“Man is a universe within himself.” – Bob Marley

“Your life is worth much more than gold.” – Bob Marley

“Judge not, before you judge yourself.” – Bob Marley

“Don’t trust people whose feelings change with time. Trust people whose feelings remain the same, even when the time” – Bob Marley

“You just can’t live in that negative way….. make way for the positive day.” – Bob Marley

“I no have education. I have inspiration. If I was educated I would be a damn fool.” – Bob Marley

“Just because you are happy it does not mean that the day is perfect but that you have looked beyond its imperfections.” – Bob Marley

“Road of life is rocky and you may stumble too, so while you talk about me, someone else is judging you.” – Bob Marley

“Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?” – Bob Marley

“Don’t worry about a thing, ’cause every little thing gonna be all right.” – Bob Marley

“In this bright future you can’t forget your past.” – Bob Marley

“In the abundance of water a fool is thirsty.” – Bob Marley

“One love, one heart . . . Let’s get together and feel all right” – Bob Marley

“As a man sow, shall he reap. and I know that talk is cheap. But the heat of the battle is as sweet as the victory.” – Bob Marley

“True friends are like stars; you can only recognize them when it’s dark around you.” – Bob Marley

“Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end.” – Bob Marley

“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.” – Bob Marley

“Love, friendship, laughter… Some of the best things in life really are free.” – Bob Marley

“The most beautiful things are not perfect, they are special” – Bob Marley

“Live for yourself and you will live in vain; Live for others, and you will live again.”- Bob Marley

“We got to fight the system, because God never made no difference between black, white, blue, pink or green. People is people, y’know. That’s the message we try to spread.”- Bob Marley

“God create you to be free. Free up yourself, otherwise you worthless. ”- Bob Marley

“One love, one heart. Let’s get together and feel all right.”- Bob Marley

“Light up the darkness. ”- Bob Marley

“The people who were trying to make this world worse are not taking the day off. Why should I?”- Bob Marley

“Overcome the devils with a thing called love.””- Bob Marley

“Though the road’s been rocky, it sure feels good to me.”- Bob Marley

Which quote resonated with you the most?  Comment below!

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Anthony Bourdain was a legend. From his extensive knowledge & experience to the culinary world, to the adventures he brought us on the show Parts Unknown where the shared the stage with everyone from villages in Cambodia to former president Barack Obama. However Bourdain continued to drop knowledge bombs through his entire career that resonate with us today.

Here are 23 of Anthony Bourdain’s best quotes:

1. “You learn a lot about someone when you share a meal together.” – Anthony Bourdain

2. “To be treated well in places where you don’t expect to be treated well, to find things in common with people you had thought previously you had very, very little in common with, can’t be a bad thing.” – Anthony Bourdain

3.  “I’m not afraid to look like an idiot.” – Anthony Bourdain

4. “I always entertain the notion that I’m wrong, or that I’ll have to revise my opinion. Most of the time that feels good; sometimes it hurts and is really embarrassing.” – Anthony Bourdain

5. “Your body is not a temple: It’s an amusement park. Enjoy the ride.” – Anthony Bourdain

6. “If I’m an advocate for anything, it’s to move. As far as you can, as much as you can. Across the ocean, or simply across the river. Walk in someone else’s shoes or at least eat their food. It’s a plus for everybody.” – Anthony Bourdain

7. Skills can be taught. Character you either have or you don’t have.” – Anthony Bourdain

8. Travel is about the gorgeous feeling of teetring in the unknown.” – Anthony Bourdain

9. “I don’t have to agree with you to like you or respect you.”- Anthony Bourdain

10. “As you move through this life and this world you change things slightly, you leave marks behind, however small. And in return, life — and travel — leaves marks on you. Most of the time, those marks — on your body or on your heart — are beautiful. Often, though, they hurt.” – Anthony Bourdain

11. “It’s very rarely a good career move to have a conscience.” – Anthony Bourdain

12. “The way you make an omelet reveals your character.” – Anthony Bourdain

13. “Without experimentation, a willingness to ask questions and try new things, we shall surely become static, repetitive, and moribund.” – Anthony Bourdain

14. “Luck is not a business model” – Anthony Bourdain

15. “Without new ideas success can become stale.” – Anthony Bourdain

16. “Maybe that’s enlightenment enough: to know that there is no final resting place of the mind; no moment of smug clarity. Perhaps wisdom… is realizing how small I am, and unwise, and how far I have yet to go.” – Anthony Bourdain

17. “I don’t have to agree with you to like you or respect you.” – Anthony Bourdain

18. “Don’t lie about it. You made a mistake. Admit it and move on. Just don’t do it again. Ever.” – Anthony Bourdain

19. “Cream rises. Excellence does have its rewards.” – Anthony Bourdain

20. “What are our expectations? Which of the things we desire are within reach? If not now, when? And will there be some left for me?” – Anthony Bourdain

21. “I learned a long time ago that trying to micromanage the perfect vacation is always a disaster. That leads to terrible times.” – Anthony Bourdain

22.  “Life is complicated. It’s filled with nuance. It’s unsatisfying… If I believe in anything, it is doubt. The root cause of all life’s problems is looking for a simple fucking answer.” – Anthony Bourdain

23. “Life is complicated. It’s filled with nuance. It’s unsatisfying. If I believe in anything, it is doubt.” – Anthony Bourdain

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Some people still believe that you need to have the right conditions in life to be wealthy such as wealthy parents, attending prestigious schools, knowing elite individuals, working in high income jobs or owning your own business.

This could not be further from the truth. There are plenty of individuals who grew up with access to the ‘right conditions’ who have absolutely nothing to show for it. Likewise, there are plenty of poor people who chose to ignore and deny their dire situation and do absolutely nothing to change it.

However, there are many stories of ordinary people who became successful to prove otherwise. Every day you can read articles on Addicted2Success about entrepreneurs living on friend’s couches, surviving on a meagre income, working tirelessly for years on end to achieve their dream and persisting despite the never-ending challenges to finally come out on top like Scott Everett Co-founder of S2 Capital and Daniel Katz of No Cow.

Irrespective of where you start, those whom create wealth are the masters of their universe. They believe in themselves and their life’s mission. They consciously choose to adopt a growth mindset and are massively committed to doing everything possible to turn their dreams into reality from becoming an international pop star, a New York Times best-selling author, a famous TV personality, or building a billionaire dollar empire.

“Becoming wealthy is not a matter of how much you earn, who your parents are or what you do…it’s a matter of managing your money properly.”  – Noel Whittaker

Wealthy, successful people choose to create their wealth and are committed to managing their money effectively whilst poor people demolish their wealth at every turn by choosing instant gratification, adopting a scarcity mindset and mis-managing their money. What separates the two, comes down to three factors:

How you choose to play the game – Is your focus strategic or short-term?
Do you have a growth or fixed mindset?
Your daily spending habits – are you building or destroying your wealth?

Below, are the eight daily habits that set the wealthy apart:
1. Master of their universe

Their number one value in life is financial security over status. The wealthy understand that by building a strong foundation via small sacrifices creates a plethora of choices and ultimately freedom. Their money works for them as they refuse to live a life where they are not the Master.

2. Highly regarded

The wealthy know exactly what they want and have a game plan to get there. They believe wholeheartedly in their life’s work. They have high standards for themselves and others and expect people to adhere to those standards. They won’t back down from letting people know that they have disappointed them or offended them by their actions or conversations.

3. Self-Assured

Actively invest and build their wealth via businesses, investment portfolio and purchasing real estate. It is through education, connections and research that the wealthy are able to invest wisely. If a mistake is made, they learn from it rather than allowing it to hold them back or repeat the same mistake. They are confident in their own abilities and trust their intuition.

4. Intentional

They are committed and disciplined to each activity they engage in from gardening, investing, speaking at a conference or motivating a team. They do not tolerate others excuses such as: I am sick, I got stuck in traffic, I did not have time to resolve the situation,  I’m sorry, I forgot to call him back and so on.

5. 10X Action

They actively engage in 10x action and thrive on challenges. They will achieve more in a day  than most people do in a week. A challenge to them is excitement, it is a game to be played and a problem to be solved which is how they end up positively impacting people’s lives.

“What you choose to do with your money shows whether you are truly powerful or powerless.” – Suze Orman

6. Risk Taker

They take risks others are too afraid to such as borrowing enormous sums of money, investing in a risky business or purchasing a large piece of land to develop an empire, marketing a product that does not yet exist or taking a chance to work with an unknown professional as they realise their potential. They borrow other people’s money to invest in assets and grow their business.

7. Consistently spend less than they earn

The wealthy are experts in managing money and know where every cent of their money goes unlike the majority who fritter it away at every turn, not realising how much they are throwing away. Some may consider them to live frugally despite having millions of dollars. That is because they value and appreciate money and therefore more money flows to them, it is a constant cycle.

8. Generosity

The wealthy understand that life is a two-way street and is important to be able to give and receive. Often, they focus on a few charities that are close to their heart and give alot of their time, energy and money to support the charity. They offer support by way of attending fundraising events, giving donations, hosting events, and becoming a member of the Board.

Decide today whom you want to become and how you want to live your life. What is your dream? How many people do you want to impact? How could you build a talented team who love what they do? What inspires you to get out of bed each morning? How do you want to feel each day? How do you want to spend each day? What does an awesome weekend look and feel like? What drives you financial security or status, simply looking good to others?

The bottom line is you must take action to change your life and choose to commit to becoming a financial warrior by knowing what you want, adopting a long-term game strategy and knowing that you have the power to live an audacious life.

What habits have you adopted to achieve greatness? Comment below!

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Did you know there are currently 9,996 results for goal setting on Amazon right now? Crazy, right? By now, goal setting should be something we understand. Every motivational speaker has taught us that the first step to success is setting goals. The process is almost always the same. Figure out what you want, write down your goals and get after it.

But if goal setting is that simple, why do we need almost ten thousand different ways to tell us how to do it? Isn’t there one right way? Fortunately, the world is filled with scientists who don’t really believe in positive self-talk. In fact, they are so skeptical, they performed scientific experiments to figure out whether goal setting works, and how to improve it.

Before you panic, the findings were good. It turns out, if you are setting goals, you are setting yourself up for success. However, we should be interested in that second part. How can we use science to improve the way we set goals?

It turns out there are 3 different areas we can apply the science of goal setting to improve our effectiveness:
1. Setting Intentions

What many of us class as goals are actually intentions. We would like something to happen, but never develop these ideas into fully fledged goals. To create goals, we need to come up with a more defined approach to achieving them. However, the starting point is always intentions.

Understanding how intentions are formed helps you understand why you might be deciding the goals you set for yourself. There are three elements that contribute to intentions:

1. Values – What is important to you will influence your goals. If health is important to you, setting a goal to run a marathon wouldn’t be a surprise. Winning a cheesecake eating competition might be more surprising as it is incongruent with your values. Goals aligned with our values are more likely to be followed up, especially long-term. Goals that fall short of accomplishment often just aren’t that important to us, and at the first sign of resistance, we tend to get frustrated or give up. Clarity around your values will help you identify great goals.

2. Peer Network – The people whose opinions you value will directly impact the challenges you set. If you grew up surrounded by businesspeople, you are far more likely to have them encouraging you to be entrepreneurial. You don’t have to go through with it, but sometimes, peer pressure can be extremely useful. Unfortunately, peer pressure can work in the opposite direction as well. Your friends are all broke? Every relationship in your family ended in divorce? This shouldn’t stop you setting the right goals for yourself, but maybe you also need to think about creating a more supportive peer network.

3. Self Belief – How much do you think you can earn this year? How many more clients could you attract to your business next month? Your self-belief will affect how high you aim your sights. Aim high, but believe in yourself to accomplish these dreams by conditioning and working on your self-efficacy levels. Roger Bannister first broke the 4-minute mile at a time when everyone (other than him) thought it was impossible. As soon as he broke through that glass ceiling, others started to believe too. Your beliefs about yourself will limit how high you set your goals.

“Set your goals high, and don’t stop till you get there.” – Bo Jackson

2. Moderating Factors

Once we are clearer on our intentions, additional factors impact how successful we are with our goals. Our commitment level will determine whether we follow through when things get tough. If the goal is important, and we believe in our ability to succeed, we are more resilient and creative when our progress slows. When we start on an important path, there will be hurdles, and it is commitment that keeps us in the game.

Feedback is essential to success. Feedback isn’t always pleasant, but how we react will determine whether we are on track for our goals or falling away from our proper path. Find a way to get external feedback from people you trust, and don’t hide away from it when it gets more constructive.

Finally, ensure the goal is challenging, but not too far out of reach. Extravagant goals are great as long-term ambitions, but we need to break down goals into manageable, yet challenging action steps. If we don’t do this, we will either be overwhelmed by our bigger goals or bored by our smaller goals. Make each step of the journey equally rewarding and challenging.

“Stay focused, go after your dreams and keep moving toward your goals.” – LL Cool J

3. Follow Through Behaviour

Lastly, we will never achieve our goals unless we follow through with the action steps. If you don’t have a defined path to success, it is often easy to appear to be busy, when in reality, your efforts are not focused. Instead, think about how to concentrate your efforts, like a magnifying glass focuses the sun, and stay working hard on that one track.

One thing that reduces follow-through behaviour is lack of self-efficacy. We need to believe in ourselves. We need to know we are destined for success and it will come. For some, that journey is quicker than others, so don’t get disheartened when others around you are crushing it.

You don’t know their journey and the effort they put in behind the scenes. Focus on you. Be better than yesterday, model people, reward your smallest successes, play your favourite music on full volume, then go out and be awesome.

If you read the goal setting science papers, maybe their language is a little less colourful, but ultimately, every single one of the goal setting tips has scientific research to back it up. If you want to read it, drink some strong coffee, head over to Google Scholar and then type in ‘goal setting’. Alternatively, trust these steps, set your goals now, and make today the day you accelerate your success!

How do you use goal setting to find success? Comment below!

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